Yep! I admit it. For years and years and years, I've been reading Virgo all wrong. At least according to astrologer, Liz Greene, I'm all wet about the primary motivating archetypal force behind Virgo. (Unfortunately, there happens to be an incredibly valid reason as to why she would probably know a heck of a lot more about Virgo energy than I do.)
Anyway, according to Liz Greene, the motivating force behind Virgo is not "perfectionism." The primary motivating force behind Mercurial Virgo is that of "synthesizing." i.e. "How do I take all these different, unrelated bits and pieces and then synthesize them into something practical and useful?" I still give "perfectionism" a close second place, regardless of what Liz Greene thinks. Darn it, I know in my heart that all the Virgos reading this description are - at this very moment - mentally doing a spelling check and looking for looking for incorrect punctuation.
Before any of you "dyed-in-the-wool" Liz Greene fans decide to write in with hate mail for my being too critical of her, I should tell you that Liz Greene still happens to be my favorite living astrologer/writer. She just can't be right 100% of the time. Even I'm only right 95% of the time.
Anyway, it's important for Virgo's lover to know that Virgo feels the safest when being practical, useful, and productive. If Virgo can "figure out" and analyze his or her environment, then they generally feel a lot safer and happier. If Virgo is happy, everybody is happy. If Virgo is unhappy, then (trust me) ain't nobody happy. The nicest things Virgo's partner can do to emotionally reassure Virgo are those little everyday practical expressions of affection which include sharing equally in the household chores and bringing Virgo a cup of chicken soup when he or she is sick. Barring other factors in the chart - as an "Earth Sign" - physical closeness, touch, and affection are often the best ways Virgo's "significant other" can express (and reassure) Virgo of their continuing love and affection. (i.e. A hug a day keeps the doctor away.) Likewise, Virgo's lover withholding physical expressions of love and affection is an ironclad, guaranteed way to make Virgo feel all alone and unloved.
As for Virgo and "virginity?" In the privacy of their own home (and behind closed doors), Virgonian energy may be anything other than what one might typically associate with being "virginal. "Virgo, with the Sun in the element of Earth, feels the safest and most comfortable when surrounded with the world of the five senses... sense of touch, sound, smell, sight, and taste. If you think about it for just a second, then that sounds downright hot, sexy, and lusty, doesn't it? In fact, since Virgos pride themselves in regard to their practical, technical abilities - Virgo's technical proficiency will likely come in very handy in the bedroom.
Shadow: As an emotional defense against stress, the more uncomfortable Virgo feels with their environment - the more critical, fussy, and petty Virgo tends to become.
Note: By the way, there are a couple of glaring typo mistakes on this page. Of course, if you're a Virgo, then you already know that (and it's driving you crazy).